If I just changed my mindset to a more positive one, I would be happier.
If I did yoga regularly, I would be more peaceful and less anxious.
If I swam frequently I would be more content with the way I exercise and feel good in my body.
If I focused on goals and my kids, poor coping mechanisms would vanish.
If I stopped having negative thoughts I would stop having negative feelings and I would stop wanting to use maladaptive behaviors.
If I could just be a better person, I would be less depressed.
If I prayed more, read the Bible more, and/or had a better relationship with God, I wouldn’t need anything or anyone else.
If I unattached myself from my team and attached myself to myself, I would have more time to do all of the above.
But none of this is happening and I am going to gain weight and I will be depressed and worthless and no one will want to connect with me and life will be pointless.